Monday, January 26, 2009


Pet peeve #62: when ex-boyfriends or ex-dates continue checking you out online after it's clear you are no longer seeing each other. Yuck!

I just logged in to JDate to see what was doing, and went straight to the list of men who had viewed me, when I came across... WF! Or should I say, WTF!? He viewed me a week ago. Ew. I'll say this just once. After I go out with a man, and it's done, and we are no longer dating (no matter how casually), they do not have the right to look and re-look and look again at my profile. Sure, I'm beautiful (snort), but that's still no excuse. It's just plain icky. They're all up in my personal space!

Another JDate guy I went out with years ago did that too. We went on one semi-awful date, he asked me out again, and I said ok to confirm it really was that bad. A few days later he emailed me to break the date, after waxing poetic about how he had a good time. I was actually kind of amazed that he had broken a date with me... that rarely happens. So good, all done; neither of us enjoyed ourselves; we matched! But then he kept viewing my profile, over and over and over, like some freakazoid. The creepiest part was that he had set up more than one profile and was looking at me with all of them. And his spelling and grammar were so poor that it was clear they were all of the same person. Plus, in those profiles he basically complained about how he's always being taken advantage of and how much dating in general sucks. I don't know about you, but doesn't he sound irresistible? Not.

Anyway, I'm sure many women feel the same way as I do about this. Men, please don't be that guy...


Paula Light said...

Sometimes a story like this is all that stands between me and a dissolution. Keep 'em coming! :)

The Clever Cat said...

Whoa, sister! I'm with you!